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I realize more all the time how much I limited other people in my mind. I spent so many years, almost all my life, believing the narrative that I was unlovable, undesirable, too much, and too hard to love. In more recent years, I’ve even been told that no one would want someone with so…

You Twist Things: Gaslighting #2

If you have ever dealt with gaslighting, then you know. But if you haven’t, here are some useful info graphics to help you understand what is happening to you. When someone does something and then blames you for doing it, that is projection. For example; perhaps they were meant to do something for someone and…

When You’re Learning to Have a Real Partner

“Sis, the inability to receive support from others is a trauma response. Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. You needed it to shield your tender heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you. From…

Gaslighting #1: Repost from Adulting with.  Depression

“If someone gaslights someone else, until they apologize, EVERY interaction gaslighter has with their victim is gaslighting. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. It does not matter what kind of good point the abuser may have, EVERY SINGLE INTERACTION IS GASLIGHTING until they genuinely apologize. In case you are confused:Gaslighting is the process of making people doubt their…

And I Am Thankful

Gabby Barrett- The Good Ones He’s a phone call to his parentsHe’s a Bible by the bedHe’s the t-shirt that I’m wearingHe’s the song stuck in my HeadHe’s solid and He’s steadyLike the Allegheny runsHe knows just where He’s goingAnd He’s proud of where He’s from One of the good onesHe’s one of the good…

this man of mine

I am more thankful for this man than I can put into words.Every day, integrity.Every day, honesty.Every day, modeling for my sons how to be a man worthy of respect.Every day, showing my daughters how women should be treated.Every day, providing.Every day, genuine.Every day, transparent.Every day, good to all of us.I am so glad I…

Dance With Me

Kiss me like you want toHold on like you need toRemember what you do, speaks more than just words when you sayI’m sorry when you’re wrongWhen I’m weak make me feel strongDance with me through life’s whole song, til the end has been written in stone On the day that we first metThough I didn’t…

when you haven’t mattered

Every time someone tries to turn an innocent mind against their mother, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone attacks who I am to those who trust me and love me, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone tries to make my kids into theirs, I will have a receipt to share. I am not throwing away my motherhood because of someone else’s determination to disrespect me.