Gaslighting #1: Repost from Adulting with.  Depression

“If someone gaslights someone else, until they apologize, EVERY interaction gaslighter has with their victim is gaslighting. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. It does not matter what kind of good point the abuser may have, EVERY SINGLE INTERACTION IS GASLIGHTING until they genuinely apologize. In case you are confused:Gaslighting is the process of making people doubt their…

when you haven’t mattered

Every time someone tries to turn an innocent mind against their mother, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone attacks who I am to those who trust me and love me, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone tries to make my kids into theirs, I will have a receipt to share. I am not throwing away my motherhood because of someone else’s determination to disrespect me.

budget, baby

My spouse and I wrote a budget last week.As in, we actually set down and wrote out a budget. Together. And some of ya’ll are like “so what?” but this is something I’ve longed for for many years. Through all of the hard times, lean years, wealthy seasons, times of surgeries and illnesses, giving birth,…

be loved

I spent so many years LISTENING….listening to the Christian culture that I wasn’t sure I agreed with, listening to people with ulterior motives than my best interest, listening to that which opposed what my heart was telling me. This decision to listen to others over myself would alter my life forever. I can’t help but…

I now pronounce you Divorced AF

Divorced People are so funny about it. And I don’t mean funny-ha-ha. But they want to tell you what they saw and how it might not be what was true or was even worse, but for the love, let them tell you what they could see from the outside.Some people say but you looked happy…

momo’s ring

Just before my grandmother, Momo, ended her battle with cancer, I was moving away. Just weeks before her final breath, we had a few final face-to-face talks. I’m lucky that the last few years before her cancer, I had taken the time to do a series of interviews with her; or more accurately, I would…

Thoughts

What people think of us isn’t who we are. What we think of others isn’t always who they are. There are layers of others, even those we think we know completely. Take captive every thought.

Digging into the Past, Emotional Abuse: Part Three

Originally posted on Long Days. Short Years.:
If I wasn’t naming this in a series, I would call this one something clever about dirty laundry. When my mother first cut me off, she uninvited me to Christmas events and did the regular silent treatment as emotional punishment thing. We even invited her to our home…