When You’re Learning to Have a Real Partner

“Sis, the inability to receive support from others is a trauma response. Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. You needed it to shield your tender heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you. From…

Gaslighting #1: Repost from Adulting with.  Depression

“If someone gaslights someone else, until they apologize, EVERY interaction gaslighter has with their victim is gaslighting. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. It does not matter what kind of good point the abuser may have, EVERY SINGLE INTERACTION IS GASLIGHTING until they genuinely apologize. In case you are confused:Gaslighting is the process of making people doubt their…

And I Am Thankful

Gabby Barrett- The Good Ones He’s a phone call to his parentsHe’s a Bible by the bedHe’s the t-shirt that I’m wearingHe’s the song stuck in my HeadHe’s solid and He’s steadyLike the Allegheny runsHe knows just where He’s goingAnd He’s proud of where He’s from One of the good onesHe’s one of the good…

this man of mine

I am more thankful for this man than I can put into words.Every day, integrity.Every day, honesty.Every day, modeling for my sons how to be a man worthy of respect.Every day, showing my daughters how women should be treated.Every day, providing.Every day, genuine.Every day, transparent.Every day, good to all of us.I am so glad I…

Dance With Me

Kiss me like you want toHold on like you need toRemember what you do, speaks more than just words when you sayI’m sorry when you’re wrongWhen I’m weak make me feel strongDance with me through life’s whole song, til the end has been written in stone On the day that we first metThough I didn’t…

when you haven’t mattered

Every time someone tries to turn an innocent mind against their mother, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone attacks who I am to those who trust me and love me, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone tries to make my kids into theirs, I will have a receipt to share. I am not throwing away my motherhood because of someone else’s determination to disrespect me.

I wore shorts in public yesterday

I wore shorts in public yesterday for the first time since 2007. I wear pajamas with shorts and shorts around my house for the first time since 2007.It’s almost 100 degrees outside and my house was built in 1850 and shorts feel good, so what, you may say. So I’ll tell you what…. I spent…

budget, baby

My spouse and I wrote a budget last week.As in, we actually set down and wrote out a budget. Together. And some of ya’ll are like “so what?” but this is something I’ve longed for for many years. Through all of the hard times, lean years, wealthy seasons, times of surgeries and illnesses, giving birth,…