I am truly free and finally safe

I have been to a lot of weddings since my own first one in 2005. Tons and tons really because I was one of the first of my friends to get married at 21 years old and in your twenties you tend to attend them one after another. And going to weddings after that one…

be loved

I spent so many years LISTENING….listening to the Christian culture that I wasn’t sure I agreed with, listening to people with ulterior motives than my best interest, listening to that which opposed what my heart was telling me. This decision to listen to others over myself would alter my life forever. I can’t help but…

I now pronounce you Divorced AF

Divorced People are so funny about it. And I don’t mean funny-ha-ha. But they want to tell you what they saw and how it might not be what was true or was even worse, but for the love, let them tell you what they could see from the outside.Some people say but you looked happy…

momo’s ring

Just before my grandmother, Momo, ended her battle with cancer, I was moving away. Just weeks before her final breath, we had a few final face-to-face talks. I’m lucky that the last few years before her cancer, I had taken the time to do a series of interviews with her; or more accurately, I would…

it’s not rebuilding when it’s brand new

I don’t seem to sound like my life wrecked: it didn’t. But things have changed. What has happened in that process is a coming free.So much I have carried that was not meant for me. So many roles I was not intended to have. And these things, I am no longer burdened with. And what…

family pictures 2019

It is no secret I have a slight obsession with family pictures. I have made efforts to have some pictures taken of my crew, both together and individually, yearly or biyearly since the beginning of being a mom more than 13 years ago.I won’t tell you this time wasn’t different. It was very different.It felt…

long time comin’

There is only so much to share about things like this. Only so much is appropriate and there is no need to break people down or share details of things that are only meant for the inner most circle.But there are some things to share and that’s okay, too. I am getting a divorce.If you’re…

Merry Everything

My home is full. Full to bursting. With people. Children. Lights. Food. Games. I have had years where my heart grieved the loss of my family of origin. And there are days I still do, at the very least, grieve for what might have and should have been. I deeply love several of my siblings…

On the subject of Forgiveness

As expected, when you share a hard truth or act as a whistle-blower you’ll be villanized. To say I’ve accepted this is true. It’s also hard to accept sometimes. One of the first blow backs is always those who want to advise on forgiveness. So let’s get that one out of the way: Forgiveness and…