When You’re Learning to Have a Real Partner

“Sis, the inability to receive support from others is a trauma response. Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. You needed it to shield your tender heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you. From…

And I Am Thankful

Gabby Barrett- The Good Ones He’s a phone call to his parentsHe’s a Bible by the bedHe’s the t-shirt that I’m wearingHe’s the song stuck in my HeadHe’s solid and He’s steadyLike the Allegheny runsHe knows just where He’s goingAnd He’s proud of where He’s from One of the good onesHe’s one of the good…

when you haven’t mattered

Every time someone tries to turn an innocent mind against their mother, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone attacks who I am to those who trust me and love me, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone tries to make my kids into theirs, I will have a receipt to share. I am not throwing away my motherhood because of someone else’s determination to disrespect me.

budget, baby

My spouse and I wrote a budget last week.As in, we actually set down and wrote out a budget. Together. And some of ya’ll are like “so what?” but this is something I’ve longed for for many years. Through all of the hard times, lean years, wealthy seasons, times of surgeries and illnesses, giving birth,…

I am truly free and finally safe

I have been to a lot of weddings since my own first one in 2005. Tons and tons really because I was one of the first of my friends to get married at 21 years old and in your twenties you tend to attend them one after another. And going to weddings after that one…

Life Anew

I’ve been writing a lot about the past, and if ya’ll follow my blog you know that’s kind of what I do. But I also want to acknowledge all the good things that have happened since the revelation of so much negative. This man came into my life in the wildest time, following one of…

real thing

Real ThingZac Brown Band It was in a crystal bottle on his deskHe’d save it for the times to not forgetI miss the way he’d share with meThe things that he held trueWhile the lessons rolled around his 80 proofAll it took wasOne sip and it blew my mindThose good ol’ boys sure make it…

momo’s ring

Just before my grandmother, Momo, ended her battle with cancer, I was moving away. Just weeks before her final breath, we had a few final face-to-face talks. I’m lucky that the last few years before her cancer, I had taken the time to do a series of interviews with her; or more accurately, I would…

it’s not rebuilding when it’s brand new

I don’t seem to sound like my life wrecked: it didn’t. But things have changed. What has happened in that process is a coming free.So much I have carried that was not meant for me. So many roles I was not intended to have. And these things, I am no longer burdened with. And what…