when you haven’t mattered

Every time someone tries to turn an innocent mind against their mother, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone attacks who I am to those who trust me and love me, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone tries to make my kids into theirs, I will have a receipt to share. I am not throwing away my motherhood because of someone else’s determination to disrespect me.

be loved

I spent so many years LISTENING….listening to the Christian culture that I wasn’t sure I agreed with, listening to people with ulterior motives than my best interest, listening to that which opposed what my heart was telling me. This decision to listen to others over myself would alter my life forever. I can’t help but…

When Someone Dies and People Tell You How to Grieve

The last few years have been overwhelmed with losses. Personally I have seen the death of two grandparents, a godparent  and a life-long friend. Several friends have also experienced a multitude of losses in their families and circles. It seems to have come in multiples just now, in a way we haven’t expected, in a…

Vaca! (Still trying to catch up the blog😝)

It’s been way too long since we Ritter’s have seen an ocean. But this year, we made it to the coast! The hours of boogy boarding and sand eating (oh, Maggie!) we spent were well worth the drive all the way to Florida. If you know me at all, you know I’m a terrible traveler:…

The Tone of a Place

It’s not a boomerang, that keeps pulling us back to Tennessee. But I don’t care if people say it’s that way. I’m not so sure it’s even ‘home.’ But there is a time when you consider community. A time when you consider being known.  More, there’s a time when you choose a tone of a…

You make all things new….even me.

There was a time, not oh-so long ago that I didn’t know what gossip really was. I was taught that gossip meant talking about something that wasn’t true. Just talking about people was a part of my family of origin’s every interaction. That wasn’t gossip, that’s just what you do. This is what we were…

Olaf the Goldendoodle

Nine years ago this April, Greg and I got married. Almost immediately, I wanted a dog. Well, I did want a dog. But I also wanted kids. And we had agreed to wait a bit before having kids. And so, in the way many couples do, I wanted to get a dog to help myself…

The Most Wonderful Time of the Year 2013

Despite the set backs (my persistent illness+Seth getting a corneal abrasion on his second gift and spending several hours in the ER and three days following with his eyes closed) we had a really great Christmas. Not The Mama and I are diligent about gifts for Christmas; each kid gets three gifts and Santa brings…

How The Elf on the Shelf Changed Our Christmas

2012 was our first year of allowing Santa into our Christmas celebrations. And it was all because of that cute little Elf in the red hat. If I have read one, I’ve read 10 negative articles about The Elf on the Shelf this year. I mean, what gives? Is it just that we’ve decided that…

Bullies Suck, Part 2

In regards to my own bullying story, God really erased this time in my life from my emotional radar. I no longer think this way, I no longer am a mad girl, I do not inadvertently test myself against teenage-me and have not for a very, very long time.  I do not carry sadness or…