When You’re Learning to Have a Real Partner

“Sis, the inability to receive support from others is a trauma response. Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. You needed it to shield your tender heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you. From…

when you haven’t mattered

Every time someone tries to turn an innocent mind against their mother, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone attacks who I am to those who trust me and love me, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone tries to make my kids into theirs, I will have a receipt to share. I am not throwing away my motherhood because of someone else’s determination to disrespect me.

budget, baby

My spouse and I wrote a budget last week.As in, we actually set down and wrote out a budget. Together. And some of ya’ll are like “so what?” but this is something I’ve longed for for many years. Through all of the hard times, lean years, wealthy seasons, times of surgeries and illnesses, giving birth,…

Evelyn & Adam & all the abused kids in this country

I know I am obsessing over little Evelyn Boswell.And I’m sorry for my distraction. But you see, I am a mother to a child like Evelyn who was rescued just before he could be killed by his parents. I have had the honor of raising a child I have no doubt would not have lived…

be loved

I spent so many years LISTENING….listening to the Christian culture that I wasn’t sure I agreed with, listening to people with ulterior motives than my best interest, listening to that which opposed what my heart was telling me. This decision to listen to others over myself would alter my life forever. I can’t help but…

momo’s ring

Just before my grandmother, Momo, ended her battle with cancer, I was moving away. Just weeks before her final breath, we had a few final face-to-face talks. I’m lucky that the last few years before her cancer, I had taken the time to do a series of interviews with her; or more accurately, I would…

reblog: finding joy

TO MY KIDS, YOU ARE NOT A PRODUCT OF DIVORCE by Rachel Marie Martin It’s taken me six years to be able to have the courage to write this letter. I think six years is a good number, a good indicator of time, of seasons passing and new seasons beginning.  In the beginning months after your…

long time comin’

There is only so much to share about things like this. Only so much is appropriate and there is no need to break people down or share details of things that are only meant for the inner most circle.But there are some things to share and that’s okay, too. I am getting a divorce.If you’re…

worthy

When Jesus said to clothe the naked, feed the hungry, house the poor he did not clarify who was excluded from such care. He simply listed the naked, the poor, the prisoner, and the hungry. He didn’t said they must be American. Or pure. Or ask about their criminal activities. Or if they had the…