When You’re Learning to Have a Real Partner

“Sis, the inability to receive support from others is a trauma response. Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. You needed it to shield your tender heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you. From…

when you haven’t mattered

Every time someone tries to turn an innocent mind against their mother, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone attacks who I am to those who trust me and love me, I will have a receipt to share. Every time someone tries to make my kids into theirs, I will have a receipt to share. I am not throwing away my motherhood because of someone else’s determination to disrespect me.

be loved

I spent so many years LISTENING….listening to the Christian culture that I wasn’t sure I agreed with, listening to people with ulterior motives than my best interest, listening to that which opposed what my heart was telling me. This decision to listen to others over myself would alter my life forever. I can’t help but…

I now pronounce you Divorced AF

Divorced People are so funny about it. And I don’t mean funny-ha-ha. But they want to tell you what they saw and how it might not be what was true or was even worse, but for the love, let them tell you what they could see from the outside.Some people say but you looked happy…

long time comin’

There is only so much to share about things like this. Only so much is appropriate and there is no need to break people down or share details of things that are only meant for the inner most circle.But there are some things to share and that’s okay, too. I am getting a divorce.If you’re…

Me, too.

The first time, I was groped and molested by a peer one year older than me while WEARING OVERALLS and long sleeves. I was sitting beside him, in a place with many others around us, a place I loved to be. He put his hand inside my overalls, then my shirt, into my bra and…

On the subject of Forgiveness

As expected, when you share a hard truth or act as a whistle-blower you’ll be villanized. To say I’ve accepted this is true. It’s also hard to accept sometimes. One of the first blow backs is always those who want to advise on forgiveness. So let’s get that one out of the way: Forgiveness and…